Why You Should Avoid The Digital World Until Your Divorce is Done
When couples get divorced, they very often resort to emotional, visceral behavior. Of course, this is the natural reaction, however, you may be setting yourself up for a struggle down the road. If you are getting a divorce, there is a very good chance both you and your spouse’s assets will be subjected to equitable distribution, especially without a marital agreement in place. While this fight can turn grueling, especially if your ex-spouse is unwilling to compromise, or even rationally converse, you must remember to stay strong, keep a clear head, and be the bigger person.
The last thing you want to do is unwillingly put the outcome of your divorce in jeopardy. Even if you avoid some of the more obvious types of inappropriate behavior, like keying your former spouse’s car, there are more subtle grey areas that you may not even think about before doing them. One of the most important things you must do when getting a divorce is to limit your digital footprint.
Though it may be tempting to post about your no-good ex or proclaim how good it feels to be free, the truth is, courts look down on this sort of behavior. Additionally, though hopefully, it goes without saying, you must never make a post soliciting dirt or other potentially harmful information about your spouse.
If you buy a brand new car, it may be tempting to post, especially since, rather obviously, there is nothing wrong with buying a new car. However, if you are requesting some form of support payment in your divorce, that post may be used against you. Courts are of the mind that if you can afford to treat yourself to a brand new car, why would you need your former spouse’s financial support?
Though of course, it is not an attorney’s job to tell you what to do in your personal life, it is our job to tell you that if you end up in another relationship before your divorce is finalized, it is always best to avoid making it public via social media. In general, it is best to keep a low profile altogether with your new significant other. Even if the relationship is completely innocent and was initiated after you and your spouse began your divorce, it may be used out of context as evidence that you were having an affair.
Lastly, don’t send threatening, or even angry texts to your former spouse. Heat-of-the-moment verbal jabs will most likely come back to haunt you. Everyone says things they regret, especially in hostile situations–it’s normal. Just don’t do it in writing.
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